Finding a Way Blog
Welcome to My Finding a Way Blog.
I want to share more about some of the ideas we have in counselling and psychotherapy that underpin how we work. I call it 'Finding a Way' because often this is the basis of therapy and counselling.
There is no one size fits all or a magic wand giving instant success. Basically we explore, we reflect, and we try out different things until something seems to make sense. But in the end it is about each person finding their own way. I hope you find these pages useful.
2nd August 2018- Resilience- How do we build it.
See past blog page for previous blogs.
02/08/2018 Resilience – How do we build it?
When times get difficult how we cope depends on our resilience to take care of ourselves and manage the situation. How we learn about resilience is usually from our upbringing which hopefully gives us a good grounding and various techniques. We continue to develop our ability to deal with difficulties as we mature and grow older.
Information about resilience.
Resilience is not something we consciously learn as it is a combination of skills, knowledge and experiences we build up individually. But it is something we get to think about when times feel tough and we struggle to manage how we feel, to understand what has happened and to find a way through. Difficult times often lead us to self- question and reflect about our lives which can be positive and add to our learning experience.
Having helpful thought processes, self-care practices and supportive networks can be key to managing difficulties. But at challenging times we can sometimes be prone to self-criticism, neglect ourselves and not make use of available support. Switching off can be a stress response in itself as we try to cope with our emotions. Or maybe how we normally support ourselves is not enough.
There are some basic things to help:
Resilience is a lifelong learning and we all get tested at times. Recognising that there are things you can do to support yourself and get through the hard times is key to how you manage the situation. At the core of all this is how you look after yourself and support yourself. At difficult times we can learn to do this a little better and build our resilience further.
If you would like to check out your own resilience bwp have an online questionnaire and some guidance:
The Samaritans do an online course for young people around building resilience but this can be useful for anyone.